Saturday, May 12, 2007

It's all about Perspective, Right?

Here it is.....Mother's Day Weekend. It really has me thinking, and recalling a little something I wrote last year. I had written it up for my online Baby Board that I am a member of. I couldn't get it out of my mind this week, so I looked it up. I'd like to share it here today.

Written on 5/15/06:
"so here is the deal....I didn't receive anything other than a card from my mom for Mother's day. DH was out of town and didn't get me anything. I wasn't surprised by this and had really thought about it ahead of time and decided it was okay. So I had a nice Mother's Day. I focused my energy and thoughts on my daughter. I enjoyed every minute with her yesterday, and did lots of thinking about how close I came to never being a mom, and how blessed I am. I smiled so much yesterday. I really felt good.

Then....I come to work...and EVERYONE keeps asking me what I "got" for mother's day, and when I tell them that I didn't "get" anything......they all pout and frown and tell me how sad that is.....and I tell them that I am okay with it...and they want to give me a hug and feel all sad for me..... so NOW I feel icky. NOW I feel like my Mother's Day wasn't good enough. NOW I am sad.....what the heck?

It really must all be about perspective. I think that usually in my life I tend to CHOOSE to be happy, and it works for me. I feel that life is too short to spend feeling sorry for myself, and if I choose to make lemonade out of the lemons that come my way...then I will have led a blessed life. I honestly couldn't care less about the "material gifts" of Mother's Day, so why now...am I feeling sad. Well, I think it is because I have been told that I "should" be sad! So here I sit, trying to steer my mind back to the happy place...the place that knows that it doesn't matter what I "got" on Sunday. It is what I "get" each and every day being Sugar Bear's mom. She appreciates me everyday....and she is starting to really really really show it, when she runs to me when I pick her up after work....when she calls out, "momma??" when she is in another room and smiles so big when she finds me...When she comes to me in the middle of playing just to hug my leg.

I sit here looking forward to the day when she comes home from school with that little handmade pipe cleaner flower and the biggest most proud smile on her face. I look forward to the day that I proudly wear the sloppy, glitter decorated foam sun visor she so proudly made me. I have so much to look forward to. So to all those doubters of my "happy Mother's Day".....I loudly say, "I am blessed...and each and every day is Mother's Day simply because I am so honored to be Sugar Bear's MOM!" Thanks for letting me share. I needed to regroup. It's all good now!"

This year, I am planning a very similar Mother's Day. It will be great. We have no where to go...and no big plans. We will have a wonderful day TOGETHER. I can't wait!

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Fiddledeedee (It Coulda' Been Worse) said...

Beautifully said! Have a wonderful Mothers Day. Your daughter is just beautiful!

Jules said...

Oh Corey, I can completely relate. Tony never goes out of his way to make my day special beacuse in his words "You aren't MY mother!" Just like you, I am okay with it, until everyone else asks about my gifts, or starts talking about their perfect day.

I am greatly looking forward to future Mother's days' once the kiddos are older!

*Heidi* said...

Amen,Corey! Enjoy tomorrow, you know how! (beatuful new blog banner!)

Keara said...

Corey! I love your new page! It is BEAUTIFUL!

I love your post. You are so right! We are so lucky to have our little ones and actually be mothers. There is so many people out there that long to be Moms but will never get the chance. Today will just be Anden and I since Joe has to go to work this afternoon so I will be spending my special day loving him!

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Yan said...

So true, Corey !
I just feel so lucky to be a MOTHER, and super special to be the mother of Brendan and Kyanna :) that's the best gifts of all !!
Hugs, Corey, Happy Mother's Day !!!

Meghan said...
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wendi said...

I love this story . . . what a great reminder to appreciate the things that are real in life and not focus on the materialistic, petty stuff. You have a wonderful attitude about life!

Amanda said...

I so totally agree, Corey! I got a pink bike - which I will be blogging about this week :)
But it isn't about the bike - it is about the little girl who insisted that I HAD to have THAT bike. My heart is so full - as is yours...

Mama Zen said...

This is a beautiful post. I really enjoyed reading this.

Corey~living and loving said...

Sara said...
I remember you writing this last year. It is so true. Who cares about all the material things we should "get" on Mother's Day. We really should focus on our time with our little ones. I'm planning a fun filled day of soaking in Logan. I hope you have a special day with darling Sugar! *hugs* and Happy Mother's Day!

Corey~living and loving said...

Meghan said...
First of all, I love the new banner.

Also, I hope you and Sugar had a wonderful Mother's Day!

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