The Unexpected!

Last night, I crept out of Sugar Bear's room after putting her to bed, and settled myself down at the computer to write my blog post. Being that ultra thrifty person I am, all the lights in the house were off expect for the Christmas tree lights and a lamp by the computer. Suddenly, our kitchen door flew open. I jumped up to hurry and close it, as I assumed it was the wind. I was half way there when a big voice said............."Hi Babe!" I nearly jumped right out of my skin. Unexpectedly my Hubby had come home.

You see, I don't talk much of Hubby. He is a private person who just doesn't understand this blogging business, and just isn't too sure he wants to be a part of it. He and I have a pretty complex relationship that confuses even people that have known us for the 17 years we have been together. That's okay....life can be like that. Much of it just can't be explained. I am all about loving people as they are, excepting that they may not ever change, but gently nudging them to be the best person that THEY can be.

Anyhow, I will say that my husband is in the commercial fishing industry. For most of our relationship he has been gone for short and L O N G periods of time. I am used to this, and to be honest, I like it that way. tee hee....doesn't mean I don't love him, but I do like time to myself, and I enjoy my ME time. Recently, as of last April, hubby decided he was taking some time off.....and/or RETIRING! eeeeekkkkkk....he is only 35. What is he talking about? I understand that he is burnt out...but ummmmm RETIRED? I am thinking mid-life crisis here....but I am just going with it...letting him work through it. We will be fine.....right?

So, from April until the second week of November he was home....allllll day.....everyday! I have to say that this is a tough thing for a relationship that is used to being apart more than they are together. We struggled a bit, but we survived. In November he set about honoring an agreement with his former boss to work Crab Season. He traveled 2 hours each morning and night to work the gear and get ready. Usually, in past years he would just stay at the boat, but this time he came home each night. Then the day after Thanksgiving he left to load the boat, head to another port, and start setting the pots. On December first they started crabbing. He has been gone ever since. Time flew....Sugar and I were sick. I was away for a week. Not very many of my "do while hubby is gone" plans got done...and now he is back....2 weeks early. eeeekkkkkk (crab season was not a good one this year) At this point, he is not looking at working....ever...or much...or who knows. He isn't really wanting to talk about it. It has me a little stressed.

All, I can say is that we have some major adjusting to do. You see, 17 years of doing things based on the fact that you have very little and precious time together, is a hard habit to break. I'll admit, over the years...I spoiled him. When he was home, it was allllllllllll about him. We watched what he wanted to watch on TV. We ate his favorite foods. We went where he wanted to go. I put off things I wanted to do until he was gone. Well, my friends, that just isn't going to fly when he is home allllllllllll the time. It can't be all about him, now can it? Ummmm yeah....he still thinks so.

Hold on....cause I think it is going to get bumpy!

Really this isn't meant to be whiney...or complainy....or anything negative really. It started out as just an explanation as to why I didn't have a new post up this morning. tee hee....sorry, you all got the bonus plan I guess. wink wink....

We hope to be back to our regularly scheduled posting tomorrow. Well, actually I might skip Freestyle Friday, and just post what I meant to post last night.